“Love does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking” 1 Corinthians 13:5
A.W. Tozer writes, “The reason why many are still troubled, still seeking, still making little forward progress is because they haven’t yet come to the end of themselves. We’re still trying to give orders, and interfering with God’s work within us.” Paul’s challenge for us this morning is coming to the end of ourselves. When we come to the end of ourselves we will find God. My desire is to find God at the end of my self-seeking love. Love is the most powerful force in the universe. Love has the power to restore broken relationships and fracture of healthy ones. Love that is empty of God dishonors others and is self-seeking. In fact, the majority of our love is self-seeking and as a result, dishonors those we love the most. When husbands and wives build their responses to each other based on self-gratification, the seeds of decay have been planted in their marriage. Absolutely, no one wants to be used. No one wants to be around self-centered people. Selfishness drives people away from each other. The words “do not seek” are in the present tense in the Greek language, indicating a continuous pattern. The self-centered person is continually seeking things that affect and interest himself. The word “seek’ is also translated “zealous.” The self-centered person is zealous about his or her own projects and accomplishments, without regard to the consequences. In other words, the self-centered person is zealously pursuing those things in which the self is honored, promoted, and helped. This zealous pursuit dishonors others. Love does not build a kingdom to the honor of itself. Love reaches out to the needs of others, expresses a willingness to help, and does so without any other motives. God’s love “does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking. Pray for God to root out the self-seeking pride of our lives. Pray for humility. Pray for healthy relationships that seek God and honor Him.